First of all, you must know that when you fall in love you cannot see in advance what will happen after marriage as you are living in the present moment to the fullest. In fact, it is really a great feeling, to be in love. It makes you happy, helpless, restless, yearn and also you see everything beautiful around you. It is as if you are losing yourself. You become generous to that extent that you can do whatever your lover says to you. Those moments are so special to you that you do not want it to end and you feel that after marriage also it will be the same.
Your dream of being in the same feeling after marriage too remains a dream forever because it is not going to happen again. This is because if you leave a step behind to move on another step, you will not be able to go back. You will have to experience the one you are on at present and it will be totally different. Your dream can never be true in this matter. So, stop dreaming and live life practically.
A marriage brings a lot of responsibilities.
I remember a saying which goes like this:
‘If you are getting married, you are not going to connect with only your husband but also your husband’s parents too.’
This saying is true although some people understand it in different ways.
Let me explain it to you and you will find all the solutions to this problem too.
You all know how important is a mother to us. Nothing and no one can separate us with our mothers because she is the one who had suffered most in order to create us and bring us in this world.
It happens many times after marriage that there are problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This has become a common problem where many people are going through sufferings.
This happens first because both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law feel insecure about the one who is in the middle, the husband, the son. They want to possess him in their own ways. The mother cannot bear that his son is going far from her and is giving more attention to his wife and the wife cannot bear that her husband always take her mother’s side.
This is very normal and here, it is the husband or the son who is in between the two, not knowing what to do in order to stop all these. He becomes nervous and many times he takes his anger on his wife because he cannot say anything to his mother.
In fact, here everyone is behaving immaturely and that is because their Awareness Level is too low.
The mother’s attachment is creating problems. The wife is feeling neglected. The husband is feeling as if he had done a great mistake in getting married.
Marriage is not that difficult to handle or to be settled in it.
It is difficult for those who cannot take the right decision at the right time. It is for those who do have have deep understanding in order to be able to understand other people. It is for those who are not aware of their actions, thoughts, and emotions. It is for those who always take their ego to be the master. It is for those who are weak.
The only solution to this problem is that you have to become mature. Do not let yourself be entangled with problems. Come out from them and show your inner strength. Make them weak and be strong.
To be like that you will have to practice Awareness, then only you will be able to handle anything.
With awareness, you will come to understand the other and will accept him or her as he or she is because you cannot transform the other person. You will have to cleanse your aura at least twice a day and be spontaneous in everything you do.
When you accept a person as he or she is, this does not mean that you have to accept everything he or she says or ask you to do. Here, you are accepting him or her the way he or she is as a person and as per his or her attitude towards you, you will have to either ignore or accept the one which you find good. You will have to be responsible first towards yourself. Be brave and say ‘Yes’ when you agree and say ‘No’ when you don’t agree but never argue. When you argue, you make the problem become more complicated and thus the whole family will have to stay in this negative environment. Arguments create negative atmosphere.
Know what you have to do and not to do. Do not let anyone torture you whether it is physically, mentally or emotionally. Always ignore your thoughts and emotions and seek for your Awareness level to increase gradually. Work for being independent about taking your own decisions. Work for being more mature.
A problem is there if you want it to be like that. If you want to dissolve it, it will definitely dissolve. So, you are the one who should master it and never let it master you. Be brave and know your rights. Your rights are not in possessing anything or anybody. Your rights are in being yourself, taking your own decision spontaneously, not letting anyone master you, and be always aware of what you are doing.
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